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Cold calling, or An Introduction

Among the things in this world that I find mildly distasteful – as opposed to wholly distasteful or just in bad taste or poor taste… and to a Southern Woman, there is a subtle difference – “work idioms” and “pop psychology” fall within this category. And yet it is terribly unfortunate that these things pop in and out of my life and fall out of my mouth with such regularity that I often am disappointed with myself.

Would you rather be right or be happy?

As someone who works in the legal profession, I constantly want to be both. I’m sure it was written in the stars that when I married my legal eagle husband a little over a year ago that we would have arguments of this nature constantly.

You know what we argued about last night? Whether to send our kids to the more prestigious school or the school that offered the most money.

We can’t even get our dog into obedience classes and we’re fussing at each other over financial aid and student debt for beings that aren’t even twinkles in our eyes.

For the record, I still think we should send the kid to the school that offers them the most money. And, yes, I still think I’m right.

Get with the program.

I dare to think of the programs I’m not a part of. I work full-time. I teach Sunday School. I’m on an adviser council to a Greek organization at a local university. I’ve been a charity terrorist for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society. I’m about to be another for the MS150. I’ve signed up to help out with fundraising for an animal rescue group.

The only program I’m really not a part of is the “No, I can’t do that right now” program.

I hear it’s an exclusive club. If you get an invitation, would you pass it along to me?

You need closure.

This one is closely associated with “build a bridge and get over it.”

My father taught me long ago about the difference between “need” and “want.” He would tell me that I need food. I need air. I need clothes (lest I want to be arrested or the “need” arises).

What I really need is a good, strong margarita.

The bottom line.

LJ Idol is a competition that, in its own strange way, frightens me. By nature, I am a fairly private person. I don’t divulge too many stories about myself in my real life. I observe and tell stories that make people laugh. I gossip and chat away. I curl up on the couch and read. I watch trashy reality television and talk about the personalities like I was actually friends with them. But in this microcosm of the internet, I have to dig within myself and face these fears. I believe that to write is to bleed on the page. As one of my favorite authors wrote, "No matter how much you think you love somebody, you'll step back when the pool of their blood edges up too close."

Here’s hoping you stay close to the edge with me this season.

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joeymichaels
Oct. 29th, 2010 09:23 pm (UTC)
Heh. I'm in education, so I am totally obsessing on your college debate. My opinion would just muddy the waters, so I'm going to keep my mouth shut. :P
cobycaroline
Oct. 29th, 2010 10:11 pm (UTC)
No no! Do tell!

I will concede, though, that I get my husband's point. I can totally understand choosing UT with little to no financial aid over a community college with a full ride. However, one of my friends from high school had a full ride to a fairly well-known, well-thought of school in Texas but chose Stanford with zero cash. Plus, he came from a single-parent household and didn't really have the cash to spend.

In that instance... dang, I think I would have to choose the zero debt option.
gaea_rising
Oct. 29th, 2010 10:08 pm (UTC)
As a fellow Southern woman, I completely relate on all these topics. I look forward to getting to know you in the next few months. :)

Good luck!
cobycaroline
Oct. 29th, 2010 10:12 pm (UTC)
Excellent, thanks! Good luck to you as well.
fortitudehigh
Oct. 29th, 2010 11:38 pm (UTC)
I want to side with your husband, but realise that is mostly my Australian background talking. (Our study debts don't have to be paid off until we reach a certain income, and then they are scaled according to how much we earn, so choosing the better university is almost always the better option.)
cobycaroline
Oct. 30th, 2010 08:12 pm (UTC)
Ah, we get saddled with our debt unless we go into forbearance/other ways to get around it. There's some debt forgiveness, but mostly... we got some money to pay back. With interest. Joy...
isis_lives
Oct. 30th, 2010 02:46 am (UTC)
From Cold calling. to staying with you close to the edge, I find this fascinating. Look forward to reading more.

girlinthemarket
Oct. 30th, 2010 03:18 am (UTC)
"I believe that to write is to bleed on the page."

I love love love love love that. I also look forward to reading more.
antianhedonia
Oct. 30th, 2010 03:27 am (UTC)
Hello and good luck.
angelic_mystic
Oct. 30th, 2010 03:33 am (UTC)
Welcome and I definitely look forward to seeing through the mind's eye of another Southern lady.
alphaloria
Oct. 31st, 2010 12:18 am (UTC)
Agreed, in a sense writing IS like bleeding on a page :)
myrna_bird
Oct. 31st, 2010 10:19 pm (UTC)
Hello. I hope you need to keep writing because I want to read it!
basric
Oct. 31st, 2010 10:31 pm (UTC)
I'm there. Look forward to reading your entries. Good Luck.
kutiechick
Nov. 1st, 2010 01:06 am (UTC)
Hiii! I'm glad to have worked w/ you in our intersection last season and to read your intro for this season!

Also, I would love an invite to this program, too -- The “No, I can’t do that right now” program.


:)
pixiebelle
Nov. 1st, 2010 04:23 am (UTC)
LJ Idol frightens me too. I really had to overcome my fear of sharing last season. And it's come back. I really hate talking about myself, especially anything bad or tragic. I HATE it.

Welcome back :)
lawchicky
Nov. 1st, 2010 02:59 pm (UTC)
Looking forward to reading what you write this season :)
skimmed_miilk
Nov. 1st, 2010 06:23 pm (UTC)
Good introduction :)
worldofcharlie
Nov. 1st, 2010 06:38 pm (UTC)
I love this intro...

Nice to meet you.. :)
solstice_singer
Nov. 2nd, 2010 10:13 pm (UTC)
I liked this intro a lot. Very nicely done!
cheshire23
Nov. 2nd, 2010 10:30 pm (UTC)
Ah, so you're a member of the Helium Hand club, too?
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